17 seemingly easy (but not always) actions of amazing people

I don’t know about you, but I like for others to like me.  Does that make me shallow or starved for attention?  No, it does not, it simply means I value opinions and want to work with others.  What are the traits of likable people?  Are some people just born charismatic, with the cool factor?  Some were not that lucky but you can appear so by adopting these points.  Let’s break them down:

 

  • Actively listen– put the phone away and maintain eye contact, engage
  • Ask questions– don’t assume you know what the underlying message is, clarify
  • Have good body language– always appear open and approachable no slouching or arms crossed in front
  • Know how to give a compliment– genuinely, not just noting something for the sake of doing so
  • Know how to accept a compliment– graciously thankful, not let it go to their head and not imply the giver is not genuine
  • Not afraid to make mistakes– understand this is ok and a part of learning, also hold themselves accountable for the mistake
  • Consistent, do what they say they will do, & follow-up– hey, this speaks for itself, circle back to show it mattered
  • Admit when they are wrong– if wrong, it’s ok, admit it and fix it, move on from it, don’t argue about it
  • Treat others with respect– all walks of life
  • Offer help– genuine but realistic help that can actually be accomplished, but careful to not overstep bounds
  • Send thank you notes– whenever possible, a hand-written note, this gesture acknowledges the time and effort of others
  • Encourage others– recognize when they need a little push to get through
  • Celebrate others– rejoice on even the small things, recognize accomplishments
  • Remember your name– you know this makes you feel like you matter
  • Not one-sided– can see the other side to an argument without it becoming one
  • Optimistic without being unrealistic– see the bright side of things but also know when things are not possible
  • Find ways to relate & speak confidently– share some small story that is similar to what someone else is sharing

Some of these tips may take conscious effort but the most important thing of all is to be genuine.  Before you know it, it will be a way of life, no effort at all.

 

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